THE BALD TRUTH - Personal Responsibilty

Personal Responsibility

“The devil made me do it.” How often do we hear this or a variation of this in today’s society? It may not even this blatant, but instead, may be more subtle. Let’s face it, we all make excuses for ourselves—excuses we would never make for other people. When I cut someone off in traffic, it was an honest mistake, but when someone else cuts me off in traffic, it is an affront to my honor right? Less and less often we are willing to take responsibility for our own actions, and it because easier and easier to blame something else or someone else for the things that we do.

It may have been a few years since you’ve last heard someone blame the devil for a choice they made. But you’ve probably seen those things replaced with other excuses. Remember hearing about the woman that sued McDonalds because she was so overweight from eating their food every day? Somehow, her choice to eat the food had become the restaurant’s fault. Of course, it’s not like McDonalds has any healthy options that she could have chosen, but it was still her choice to go to that restaurant, pick something off the menu, and then eat it. And yet, she blamed the fast food, not herself.

That’s not to say that all people are overweight because they eat fast food or even entirely because of choices that they make for themselves. But assigning blame, either to food or to genetics does not change reality and it does nothing to improve the situation. If you discover that you have a slow metabolism, one choice would be to blame that metabolism for causing you to gain weight. The other choice would be to take personal responsibility for things that you can control and learn to eat foods that will work with your metabolism.

This extends into every faction of society. Parents will blame other children or “the world” for the behavior of their children, when parents who take personal responsibility know full well that how children act is, largely, a result of how they are parented. As a society, we are refusing to act for ourselves, or refusing to acknowledge that the actions that we take have real consequences, especially if those consequences are negative. Instead, we choose to blame external forces for anything that goes wrong.

The good news is that taking personal responsibility is as easy as examining your actions and the consequences. Guess what, if you eat 3000 calories a day and do nothing but watch television, you will gain weight. If you ignore your children, they will probably throw a fit in public just to get some semblance of attention. Once we can take responsibility for the things that happen in our own lives, we can actually begin to change our mindset, our actions, and our entire lives. When we realize that we are in control, we can steer our lives towards something better.

Coach Rick Kolster, CBC is a certified business/life coach,  the author of the upcoming book Roll Up Your Sleeves and Get To Work as well as a public speaker on personal growth.. He can be contacted at 817-748-7425 or Rick@CoachRickKolster.com
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The BALD TRUTH - Life Balance

                                                       Life balance

How to find a balance in life?
Each of us has to follow a process of steps in life.  When children grow up, they must focus on education. Then, they should have a stable work so that they can earn a good salary each month. When they decide to get married, their attention should be directed towards finding the right partner.

We all know that we have to set some goals in order to achieve the best results. After setting goals, we then start planning the steps that we have to follow in order to reach what we want to get.

Determine your mindset
Let’s think that you are looking for a new job. You are the one that has to choose how things will happen. In many cases, people think that they cannot get positive results because of destiny. This is false. Every success requires effort.  Begin by thinking that you are excellent at what you doing. Recognize and point out positive aspects about yourself. Understand that success is hard. Achieving all you want is going to take effort on your part. Most of all you have to be very involved in the process without trying to skip any step.  Planning your daily duties helps you get the results you want.

Being balanced doesn’t mean that we have to have equal parts of everything in our life. You may need to let some things go. We are different, and sometimes things that can make you happy have a different impact on another person.  You should just try to find what is good for you and what makes you happy; Another important aspect. We, as human beings, all change. What made us happy yesterday, could make today upset. Why? Because we change our perspectives easily.

Life coaching
If you feel that you can’t function alone, please feel free to ask for help:  Find a coach.  Life coaches can help you see things you may be missing. Occasionally, Friends can provide you with pieces of advice.  However,    As well as you think you know yourself, you might be wrong. The more outside perspective you get from a qualified coach, the better prepared you will be for taking life in your own hands.

Purpose and direction
The life purpose that you have uncovered and discovered will guide you towards a sure destination: that one that you desire for yourself. Knowing your purpose is key. It is what it is whether you know it or not.   If you are very confident in your purpose you will keep headed the right way. Everything is based on living to your purpose. Be equilibrated and self-motivated and success will definitely appear on your street.

Success
After having overcome obstacles, you are now free to feel happy you have reached success. The key is that success can have different forms for every person. For instance, one could consider that he got the right way to the success by achieving great grades in school. Another one could reconsider success as a bonus for having done his job well.

Don’t forget: success can be reached. Be aware of your purpose, use your skills and take action on opportunities, this will get you on the path to success. Start thinking positive. That’s the first thing that you have to do.

Coach Rick Kolster, CBC is a certified business/life coach,  the author of the upcoming book Roll Up Your Sleeves and Get To Work as well as a public speaker on personal growth.. He can be contacted at 817-748-7425 or Rick@CoachRickKolster.com www.CoachRickKolster.com

The BALD TRUTH - April Fools!

Our minds cannot distinguish between what is real or what is made up.  We spend much of our time telling ourselves what we believe is real.  Sometimes we spend much of our time living a MSU life. That is a world of Making Stuff Up. We fool ourselves all the time.  It's how we are wired.  We see something and come to a conclusion based on our own experiences.  Many times, our experiences taint our thoughts and we make up what we believe to be true. It’s like the ultimate April Fool’s joke except we do it every day!

Think about it.  You are driving down the road, it is just starting to get dark, but it is still clear out. You are a little behind (as usual) and pushing the speed limit just a little bit.  You are cruising along and all of a sudden you see a car coming up on you from behind and then the blue and red lights pop on and it starts to speed up and gain ground on you.  At that instant what is happening to your mind, what are you thinking?  Probably, crap, I'm going to get a ticket.  Now take an inventory on how your body is reacting.  Is your blood pressure up? Is your stomach in a knot?  Are you sweating?

Answer... YES!!  Your brain is telling you that you are getting pulled over and probably going to get a speeding ticket.  Back to real time... While all that is going on the police car is gaining on you and comes up behind you, then suddenly swerves into the left hand lane and blows right by lights and siren blaring. WHEW!!! That was close.

Now think about it. were you really getting pulled over?  NO! did you think you were? YES! did you react physiologically as if you were getting pulled over?  YES!  Why?  Because your brain knows only what we tell it.  We decide what is real.  So how can this help you be more positive?

Easy. tell yourself good things, things that will empower you. Things that will make you believe good will happen. You will get that deal, you will win that game, you will love stronger and deeper, you can get that promotion. 

Intention is so powerful. If you watch the video you will see how Jessica tells herself she loves everything about her life. http://youtu.be/qR3rK0kZFkg 
  

She is happy, she is positive and she is looking at the good she has rather than the things she doesn't.  What would change for you if you focused on the good in your life? The great things you do have rather than what is missing and is crappy?  Tell yourself it will all work out for the best and I guarantee it will turn out much better than if you whine about it,  AND the people around you will thank you too.

Quit playing your daily April Fool’s joke on yourself and start thing positive and see what happens.

Coach Rick Kolster, CBC is the founder of the Peak Performance Group. He speaks The BALD TRUTH and works with leaders to “Roll Up Your Sleeves and Get To Work!” 

Order his new book "Roll Up Your Sleeves and Get To Work" here: www.rollupyoursleevesbook.com