Tuesday, May 20, 2014
Tuesday, April 29, 2014
THE BALD TRUTH - Personal Responsibilty
Personal
Responsibility
“The devil made me do it.” How often do we hear this or a
variation of this in today’s society? It may not even this blatant, but
instead, may be more subtle. Let’s face it, we all make excuses for
ourselves—excuses we would never make for other people. When I cut someone off in traffic, it was an
honest mistake, but when someone else cuts me off in traffic, it is an affront
to my honor right? Less and less often we are willing to take responsibility
for our own actions, and it because easier and easier to blame something else
or someone else for the things that we do.
It may have been a few years since you’ve last heard someone
blame the devil for a choice they made. But you’ve probably seen those things
replaced with other excuses. Remember hearing about the woman that sued
McDonalds because she was so overweight from eating their food every day?
Somehow, her choice to eat the food had become the restaurant’s fault. Of
course, it’s not like McDonalds has any healthy options that she could have
chosen, but it was still her choice to go to that restaurant, pick something
off the menu, and then eat it. And yet, she blamed the fast food, not herself.
That’s not to say that all people are overweight because
they eat fast food or even entirely because of choices that they make for
themselves. But assigning blame, either to food or to genetics does not change
reality and it does nothing to improve the situation. If you discover that you
have a slow metabolism, one choice would be to blame that metabolism for causing
you to gain weight. The other choice would be to take personal responsibility
for things that you can control and learn to eat foods that will work with your
metabolism.
This extends into every faction of society. Parents will
blame other children or “the world” for the behavior of their children, when
parents who take personal responsibility know full well that how children act
is, largely, a result of how they are parented. As a society, we are refusing
to act for ourselves, or refusing to acknowledge that the actions that we take
have real consequences, especially if those consequences are negative. Instead,
we choose to blame external forces for anything that goes wrong.
Coach Rick Kolster, CBC is a certified business/life coach, the author of the upcoming book Roll Up Your Sleeves and Get To Work as well as a public speaker on personal growth.. He can be contacted at 817-748-7425 or Rick@CoachRickKolster.com
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Thursday, April 17, 2014
The BALD TRUTH - Life Balance
Life balance
How to find a balance in life?
Each of us has to follow a process of steps in life. When children grow up, they must focus on education. Then, they should have a stable work so that they can earn a good salary each month. When they decide to get married, their attention should be directed towards finding the right partner.
Each of us has to follow a process of steps in life. When children grow up, they must focus on education. Then, they should have a stable work so that they can earn a good salary each month. When they decide to get married, their attention should be directed towards finding the right partner.
We all know that we
have to set some goals in order to achieve the best results. After setting
goals, we then start planning the steps that we have to follow in order to
reach what we want to get.
Determine your mindset
Let’s think that you are looking for a new job. You are the one that has to choose how things will happen. In many cases, people think that they cannot get positive results because of destiny. This is false. Every success requires effort. Begin by thinking that you are excellent at what you doing. Recognize and point out positive aspects about yourself. Understand that success is hard. Achieving all you want is going to take effort on your part. Most of all you have to be very involved in the process without trying to skip any step. Planning your daily duties helps you get the results you want.
Let’s think that you are looking for a new job. You are the one that has to choose how things will happen. In many cases, people think that they cannot get positive results because of destiny. This is false. Every success requires effort. Begin by thinking that you are excellent at what you doing. Recognize and point out positive aspects about yourself. Understand that success is hard. Achieving all you want is going to take effort on your part. Most of all you have to be very involved in the process without trying to skip any step. Planning your daily duties helps you get the results you want.
Being balanced doesn’t
mean that we have to have equal parts of everything in our life. You may need
to let some things go. We are different, and sometimes things that can make you
happy have a different impact on another person. You should just try to find what is good for
you and what makes you happy; Another important aspect. We, as human beings,
all change. What made us happy yesterday, could make today upset. Why? Because
we change our perspectives easily.
Life coaching
If you feel that you can’t function alone, please feel free to ask for help: Find a coach. Life coaches can help you see things you may be missing. Occasionally, Friends can provide you with pieces of advice. However, As well as you think you know yourself, you might be wrong. The more outside perspective you get from a qualified coach, the better prepared you will be for taking life in your own hands.
If you feel that you can’t function alone, please feel free to ask for help: Find a coach. Life coaches can help you see things you may be missing. Occasionally, Friends can provide you with pieces of advice. However, As well as you think you know yourself, you might be wrong. The more outside perspective you get from a qualified coach, the better prepared you will be for taking life in your own hands.
Purpose and direction
The life purpose that you have uncovered and discovered will guide you towards a sure destination: that one that you desire for yourself. Knowing your purpose is key. It is what it is whether you know it or not. If you are very confident in your purpose you will keep headed the right way. Everything is based on living to your purpose. Be equilibrated and self-motivated and success will definitely appear on your street.
The life purpose that you have uncovered and discovered will guide you towards a sure destination: that one that you desire for yourself. Knowing your purpose is key. It is what it is whether you know it or not. If you are very confident in your purpose you will keep headed the right way. Everything is based on living to your purpose. Be equilibrated and self-motivated and success will definitely appear on your street.
Success
After having overcome obstacles, you are now free to feel happy you have reached success. The key is that success can have different forms for every person. For instance, one could consider that he got the right way to the success by achieving great grades in school. Another one could reconsider success as a bonus for having done his job well.
After having overcome obstacles, you are now free to feel happy you have reached success. The key is that success can have different forms for every person. For instance, one could consider that he got the right way to the success by achieving great grades in school. Another one could reconsider success as a bonus for having done his job well.
Don’t forget: success
can be reached. Be aware of your purpose, use your skills and take action on
opportunities, this will get you on the path to success. Start thinking
positive. That’s the first thing that you have to do.
Coach Rick Kolster, CBC is a certified business/life
coach, the author of the upcoming book
Roll Up Your Sleeves and Get To Work as well as a public speaker on personal
growth.. He can be contacted at 817-748-7425 or Rick@CoachRickKolster.com www.CoachRickKolster.com
Tuesday, April 1, 2014
The BALD TRUTH - April Fools!
Our minds cannot distinguish between what is real or what is
made up. We spend much of our time telling ourselves what we believe is
real. Sometimes we spend much of our time living a MSU life.
That is a world of Making Stuff Up. We fool ourselves all the
time. It's how we are wired. We see something and come to a
conclusion based on our own experiences. Many times, our experiences
taint our thoughts and we make up what we believe to be true. It’s like the
ultimate April Fool’s joke except we do it every day!
Think about it. You are driving down the road, it is just starting to get dark, but it is still clear out. You are a little behind (as usual) and pushing the speed limit just a little bit. You are cruising along and all of a sudden you see a car coming up on you from behind and then the blue and red lights pop on and it starts to speed up and gain ground on you. At that instant what is happening to your mind, what are you thinking? Probably, crap, I'm going to get a ticket. Now take an inventory on how your body is reacting. Is your blood pressure up? Is your stomach in a knot? Are you sweating?
Answer... YES!! Your brain is telling you that you are getting pulled over and probably going to get a speeding ticket. Back to real time... While all that is going on the police car is gaining on you and comes up behind you, then suddenly swerves into the left hand lane and blows right by lights and siren blaring. WHEW!!! That was close.
Now think about it. were you really getting pulled over? NO! did you think you were? YES! did you react physiologically as if you were getting pulled over? YES! Why? Because your brain knows only what we tell it. We decide what is real. So how can this help you be more positive?
Easy. tell yourself good things, things that will empower you. Things that will make you believe good will happen. You will get that deal, you will win that game, you will love stronger and deeper, you can get that promotion.
Intention is so powerful. If you watch the video you will see how Jessica tells herself she loves everything about her life. http://youtu.be/qR3rK0kZFkg
She is happy, she is positive and she is looking at the good she has rather than the things she doesn't. What would change for you if you focused on the good in your life? The great things you do have rather than what is missing and is crappy? Tell yourself it will all work out for the best and I guarantee it will turn out much better than if you whine about it, AND the people around you will thank you too.
Quit playing your daily April Fool’s joke on yourself and start thing positive and see what happens.
Coach Rick Kolster, CBC is the founder of the Peak Performance Group. He speaks The BALD TRUTH and works with leaders to “Roll Up Your Sleeves and Get To Work!”
Think about it. You are driving down the road, it is just starting to get dark, but it is still clear out. You are a little behind (as usual) and pushing the speed limit just a little bit. You are cruising along and all of a sudden you see a car coming up on you from behind and then the blue and red lights pop on and it starts to speed up and gain ground on you. At that instant what is happening to your mind, what are you thinking? Probably, crap, I'm going to get a ticket. Now take an inventory on how your body is reacting. Is your blood pressure up? Is your stomach in a knot? Are you sweating?
Answer... YES!! Your brain is telling you that you are getting pulled over and probably going to get a speeding ticket. Back to real time... While all that is going on the police car is gaining on you and comes up behind you, then suddenly swerves into the left hand lane and blows right by lights and siren blaring. WHEW!!! That was close.
Now think about it. were you really getting pulled over? NO! did you think you were? YES! did you react physiologically as if you were getting pulled over? YES! Why? Because your brain knows only what we tell it. We decide what is real. So how can this help you be more positive?
Easy. tell yourself good things, things that will empower you. Things that will make you believe good will happen. You will get that deal, you will win that game, you will love stronger and deeper, you can get that promotion.
Intention is so powerful. If you watch the video you will see how Jessica tells herself she loves everything about her life. http://youtu.be/qR3rK0kZFkg
She is happy, she is positive and she is looking at the good she has rather than the things she doesn't. What would change for you if you focused on the good in your life? The great things you do have rather than what is missing and is crappy? Tell yourself it will all work out for the best and I guarantee it will turn out much better than if you whine about it, AND the people around you will thank you too.
Quit playing your daily April Fool’s joke on yourself and start thing positive and see what happens.
Coach Rick Kolster, CBC is the founder of the Peak Performance Group. He speaks The BALD TRUTH and works with leaders to “Roll Up Your Sleeves and Get To Work!”
Order his new book "Roll Up Your Sleeves and Get To
Work" here: www.rollupyoursleevesbook.com
Tuesday, March 25, 2014
The BALD TRUTH - 10 behaviors that create trust
Re-posted from http://buschmanconsultancy.com/en/2014/02/28/10-behaviours-that-create-trust/#.UydNNl5lB-Q.blogger
Stephen M.R. Covey states that the most important ingredient within any relationship is trust. Not just in loving relationships but also in working relationships. In an age where change is occurring at ever-increasing speed, and commitment from employees and line managers is increasingly crucial, the value of trust is greater than ever. According to Covey, it is the most important and most underrated ingredient for business success.
In the article The speed of trust, I describe four key elements of trust: intention, integrity, capabilities and results. In this article I will go in more detail into 10 behaviours that help to create trust. I’ll be interested to know how far you are aware of these already and whether you are applying them in your own life.
1. Straight talk
Did you know that 6 out of 10 employees do not trust their line manager? This is often due to a lack of transparency – partly because the line managers will not admit to making mistakes. Or because they do not treat bad news within their organisation in an open manner. I have some good news: there is an alternative! By being honest, telling it like it is, getting to the point and using simple language.
Did you know that 6 out of 10 employees do not trust their line manager? This is often due to a lack of transparency – partly because the line managers will not admit to making mistakes. Or because they do not treat bad news within their organisation in an open manner. I have some good news: there is an alternative! By being honest, telling it like it is, getting to the point and using simple language.
2. Listen first
Have you ever asked yourself what would happen if, instead of broadcasting your own message, you were to ask questions and listen to the answers? If you replaced the monologue with a dialogue? If you honestly want to understand opinions and insights that deviate from your own? If you are capable of doing this, you will be operating at the third level of conversation: the dialogue, as described in my article the conversation.
Have you ever asked yourself what would happen if, instead of broadcasting your own message, you were to ask questions and listen to the answers? If you replaced the monologue with a dialogue? If you honestly want to understand opinions and insights that deviate from your own? If you are capable of doing this, you will be operating at the third level of conversation: the dialogue, as described in my article the conversation.
3. Demonstrate respect
Demonstrating respect means that you accept the other as a worthwhile and valuable person. And you view that person separately from their function within the organisation. It doesn’t make any difference whether someone is a manager or a cleaner, everyone contributes to the success of an organisation. Demonstrating respect is often expressed in the small stuff; looking a person in the eye, saying thank you, holding the door open for someone, or addressing someone by their first name. And, sometimes it’s not happening that way. Check out this video to see a different perspective and the impact it can have.
Demonstrating respect means that you accept the other as a worthwhile and valuable person. And you view that person separately from their function within the organisation. It doesn’t make any difference whether someone is a manager or a cleaner, everyone contributes to the success of an organisation. Demonstrating respect is often expressed in the small stuff; looking a person in the eye, saying thank you, holding the door open for someone, or addressing someone by their first name. And, sometimes it’s not happening that way. Check out this video to see a different perspective and the impact it can have.
4. Show loyalty
If someone has produced an outstanding achievement, do you acknowledge the good job they’ve done? Or do you take the credit yourself? I hope you answered with the first option! Be sincere, support your people and be proud of them. Make your support known to them and others. If you have to talk about people in a negative way, then do this in their presence.
5. Keep commitments
People often say that agreed is agreed, but to what extent is this carried out in practice? When it comes to simple issues it’s not normally a problem. It’s the more complex or politically sensitive matters that create difficulties. So try to be honest and transparent in these situations too. And if you know beforehand that you won’t be able to keep your promise, or if this becomes clear to you later on, just admit it.
People often say that agreed is agreed, but to what extent is this carried out in practice? When it comes to simple issues it’s not normally a problem. It’s the more complex or politically sensitive matters that create difficulties. So try to be honest and transparent in these situations too. And if you know beforehand that you won’t be able to keep your promise, or if this becomes clear to you later on, just admit it.
6. Be willing to improve
Are you the kind of person who wants to learn all the time? Who dares to take risks, asks for feedback and learns from their mistakes? By adopting this attitude, you will not only continue learning throughout your life, but you are also an example to others to do the same. And this is a wonderful foundation for making your team consistently more effective.
Are you the kind of person who wants to learn all the time? Who dares to take risks, asks for feedback and learns from their mistakes? By adopting this attitude, you will not only continue learning throughout your life, but you are also an example to others to do the same. And this is a wonderful foundation for making your team consistently more effective.
7. Confront reality
We all experience difficult periods in our lives. The question is: how do you deal with them? Do you evade the issue and put off doing things you know you should, or do you tackle the difficult issues straight away? Don’t bury your head in the sand, but express what you’re having problems with, ask for help and start resolving the situation.
We all experience difficult periods in our lives. The question is: how do you deal with them? Do you evade the issue and put off doing things you know you should, or do you tackle the difficult issues straight away? Don’t bury your head in the sand, but express what you’re having problems with, ask for help and start resolving the situation.
8. Clarify expectations
What do you expect from your employees? Make clearly defined agreements about the ‘what’ and the ‘how’. If you are expressing your expectations, make sure to check that the other party has understood what you are saying and that they are aware of how they can help you fulfill them. Try to be as concrete as possible. In other words, make your expectations, or goals, SMART: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Timely.
What do you expect from your employees? Make clearly defined agreements about the ‘what’ and the ‘how’. If you are expressing your expectations, make sure to check that the other party has understood what you are saying and that they are aware of how they can help you fulfill them. Try to be as concrete as possible. In other words, make your expectations, or goals, SMART: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Timely.
9. Create transparency
Just be open and honest. Speak the truth and try not to appear better than you are. If for example you failed to do something, try not to think up a clever excuse to make you feel better. Just admit the real reason you didn’t keep to your agreement. And don’t forget: a half-truth is also a lie.
Just be open and honest. Speak the truth and try not to appear better than you are. If for example you failed to do something, try not to think up a clever excuse to make you feel better. Just admit the real reason you didn’t keep to your agreement. And don’t forget: a half-truth is also a lie.
10. Righting wrongs
If you’ve made a mistake, then take responsibility for it. And try to find out how you can put it right. Don’t wait too long, but see what you can do and do it at once. And don’t forget to say ‘Sorry’, and mean it. This might be tricky, but if you’re able to push your ego to one side, it will pay dividends.
If you’ve made a mistake, then take responsibility for it. And try to find out how you can put it right. Don’t wait too long, but see what you can do and do it at once. And don’t forget to say ‘Sorry’, and mean it. This might be tricky, but if you’re able to push your ego to one side, it will pay dividends.
I wish you many relationships full of trust!
That's The BALD TRUTH!
Coach Rick Kolster, CBC is the founder of the Peak Performance Group. He speaks to organizations and associations on The BALD TRUTH He also works with leaders to “Roll Up Your Sleeves and Get To Work!”
Pre-order his new book "Roll Up Your Sleeves and Get To Work" here: www.rollupyoursleevesbook.com
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Reprinted from: 10 behaviours that create trust - Buschman Consultancy
Tuesday, March 18, 2014
The BALD TRUTH - Living in the Present
I've discovered that I have greater success with living life in the present moment when I remove judgment from what I'm experiencing. Rather than making an event a bad or a good experience, I find myself being in the "isness" of the moment; that is, what I'm feeling is much more helpful than why it isn't what I think it should be. This is called allowing rather than resisting what is. Even if I wish to change the moment, it's far more useful to allow it without any judgment and then notice everything I can about it.
The more I stay out of my good-thought/bad-thought routine, the more I'm able to just be with it. I love to observe the instant without any judgment. Birds simply allow whatever comes their way, no matter if the wind picks up or the rain comes, and I work at being like one of those fabulous creatures. The way I do so is to ask myself this question: "What's happening right here and right now, independent of my opinion about it?" Then I notice all that I can take in-the sky, the wind, the sounds, the light, the insects, the temperature, the people, the judgments...everything. I stay free of opinions and just let myself be. In these moments, I don't need an excuse or an explanation for anything.
I try to keep in mind that whenever I react against any form that life takes in the present moment, I'm treating the now as some kind of impediment or even as my enemy.
Be without judgment and you'll never feel the need for some tiresome excuse to use up your precious seconds, such as "I'm too old" or "It will take a long time" or "It will be too difficult." Instead, you'll be in the now, welcoming your constant present-moment companion, your Source of being, which knows nothing of excuses and doesn't know how to be anyplace but here, now. As one of my spiritual predecessors, Dale Carnegie, once wrote: "One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon-instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today."
Become one in the present moment with all of the roses that show up in your life. Stay present: every second, every minute, and every hour. Every day of your life is full of present moments of infinite value. You won't find God yesterday or tomorrow-your Source is always only here, now. From Positive thoughts email.
Live well then Roll Up Your Sleeves and Get To Work!
Coach Rick www.CoachRickKolster.com
Coach Rick Kolster, CBC is the founder of the Peak Performance Group. He speaks The BALD TRUTH and works with leaders to “Roll Up Your Sleeves and Get To Work!”
Pre-order his new book "Roll Up Your Sleeves and Get To Work" here: www.rollupyoursleevesbook.com
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Friday, March 14, 2014
The BALD TRUTH - Breaking Out Of Your Comfort Zone
I am finally stepping out of my personal comfort zone and hiring a personal trainer at my gym. Now keep in mind that over the past 35 years, I have been a collegiate level athlete in two sports, competed in over 40 triathlons, finished the Body for Life challenge 2 times and spent a lot of time in the gym (gym rat) for most of my adolescent and adult life.What could a young trainer teach ME about working out?
Let me tell you, A lot! The reason I'm hiring a trainer is that I feel like I have hit a plateau in my workouts. I have my old routines and they are keeping me in pretty good shape. In fact I will say that at almost 55 years old I'm probably in better shape than most 25 year olds. I needed to try something different to help me break through and all I needed was a different perspective that would allow me to hit the next level.
If you have hit a plateau in your sales or management career, your personal life or just feel flat. You may be successful and accomplished much in your life. Outwardly have what most would say is success. Are you where YOU want to be? Could it be you are doing the same things that got you here again and again? Is now the time to hire someone to help you move to the next level.
I will keep you posted on how the training is going. I pretty sure that after even only a few sessions I will see (and feel) the difference. Make the change you need to get to where you want to get.
Coach Rick Kolster, CBC is the founder of the Peak Performance Group. He speaks The BALD TRUTH and works with leaders to “Roll Up Your Sleeves and Get To Work!”
Pre-order his new book "Roll Up Your Sleeves and Get To Work" here: www.rollupyoursleevesbook.com
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